The key to success is belief. Most of us desperately want to believe in ourselves, but we allow that insane little creature inside our head (our ego) to convince us that we are just simply not good enough to do it. You know exactly what I’m talking about – you come up with an idea, something you desperately want to try and immediately that little voice inside your head gives you 101 reasons why you can’t do it – you’re too old, you’re not smart enough, you don’t have enough resources, you don’t know enough about it…and so on and so on, ad infinitum. What your ego is desperately trying to do is protect you from the pain of failure and retain the status quo,
The status quo is simple, it’s comfortable, it’s easy, so your ego tries its very best to knock you down at every opportunity and remind you of your perceived shortcomings. What we need to understand is that our ego is NOT us – it is not the real you, it is merely a collection of pre-programmed ideas and concepts that were drilled into us from our very earliest days. You may remember your parents, your teachers or your friends saying things like; “Oh rich people are just lucky, or even worse, all rich people must be crooks; you need to find a stable career, something to support your family; leaders are born, not made – some of us are just meant to be followers; only the really smart people can succeed in life; or perhaps the worst of all, you just have to accept your lot in life, there’s nothing you can do about it” As we grow up we accept these things as being gospel and we limit our opportunities and life accordingly.
NONE OF THIS IS TRUE! You have infinite power inside of you to change anything in your life and in your circumstances – life does not have to happen to you; you can make life happen for you, and it all begins with your attitude.
I love this quote from Rhonda Byrne’s book “The Hero”; “It isn’t necessary to have big dreams, but if you don’t have big dreams; big dreams can’t come true.” One of the first things that happens when we begin to get “ground down” by life is that we lose the inspiration and ability to dream. Without dreams we are just mere shells of the amazing, awesome human beings that we were meant to be. Dreams, aspirations and goals are what makes us unique in this world.
Everyone should have big, wild, seemingly impossible dreams – it’s what gives us a sense of purpose, of fulfillment and of wonder. If you reach for the stars, even if you don’t always make it, you’ll surely come closer to heaven. We need to remind ourselves that this is OUR life; not our parent’s life, not our bosses life, not our children’s life, not even our spouses life – but it is OUR life and we need to work toward making our dreams come true, for our own sake.
One of the biggest problems I see with people who make a commitment to following their dreams or to set goals, is an immediate attempt to try and map out the path toward success. This is a big mistake! You will never be able to clearly see the path toward achieving your dreams. The key to achieving your dreams, is to actually start out on the road to achieving them – not in trying to figure out how to get there. Whether you believe it is The Law of Attraction, the Power of the Universe, Karma, or just plain good luck doesn’t actually matter; the reality is that when you are following your dreams and approaching life with the right attitude; the people, the circumstances and the opportunities WILL appear in your life and will show you the way.
I’d like to give you some quick and simple tips on ways to change your attitude from the negative to the positive:
- Before you get up in the morning, spend just 5 minutes listing in your head all things you can and should be grateful for.
- Read, listen to and watch less news. In fact, why not do what I did and have a total media ban for a month. You’ll be amazed at how much the negative news has been subtly impacting on your attitude and thoughts.
- When you are walking somewhere, smile at people, for absolutely no reason other than you want to share your good mood and attitude.
- We live in a world of duality – for every negative circumstance, there is ALWAYS a positive opportunity. Look for the positive in everything and just turn away from the negative.
- Pay absolutely no mind to anything anyone says about you or does to you. Their opinions cannot hurt you – only your reaction can. Just turn away and be happy and proud of who you really are.
- Get into the habit of performing small “random acts of kindness” every single day. They make the recipients day and they also make you feel absolutely awesome. It can be something as simple as standing for a lady or an elderly person on the train or the bus; holding a door open for somebody; or giving a few pesos to an elderly or disabled beggar. It doesn’t matter really because once it becomes an ingrained habit for you, the benefits will surely be seen in your attitude, your thoughts and your actions.
- Don’t listen to, or spread gossip. Gossip really only hurts one person – YOU! You never know the full story of anyone’s life, so don’t judge them and certainly don’t start or pass on rumors or gossip about them. There is only one person in this world you can control and that is you.
There are many other little tips, but that’s a good start, and I’m sure you can come up with many more. In fact, please feel free to leave a comment with your ideas and tips. I’m always excited to get new ideas.
This article is an abridged version of a much more expansive article on the topic. The full text of the original article can be found here: http://grantleishman.weebly.com/my-blog/your-attitude-sucks