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There is no Tomorrow!

Fear, doubt, anxiety, and worry; these emotions effectively rob us of so many of the wonderful opportunities that are presented to us every single day. We spend hours of our precious time on this planet worrying about things that are outside of our control; that we can do absolutely nothing about anyway; so much so that we forget, or miss the chances to experience the things that can bring us the joy and the happiness that every one of us so richly deserves. The key is to live in the PRESENT!

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I believe the very title of this blog today sums up one of the most important thing that we need to get into our heads, as human beings; “There Is No Tomorrow!” To put it as simply as I can; tomorrow just does not exist – it has not been created yet. What tomorrow holds is an exact reflection of what we do, how we react and how we live our lives TODAY! All the gurus say we have to live more in the present; but what exactly does that mean?
To me, it simply means that we must focus everyday on the things that are happening right now. How we live our life today will, with an absolute certainty reflect back on how our lives unfold, when tomorrow is finally created. Exactly the same thing applies to yesterday. Yesterday is gone, buried, and dealt with. Nothing we did yesterday can be changed or undone. The ONLY thing that we have any control over at all is how we behave, and what we do today. This is what “living in the present” really means.

How do we stop ourselves from worrying?

Let’s address first of all our concerns and worries about what happened yesterday. When I say yesterday, I actually mean every yesterday, that ever there was, in your life. I know for so many people, they have this tendency to dwell in the past – to self-flagellate themselves about their perceived mistakes and the failures that they feel they had made before. So often this fear of repeating the same mistakes, facing the same humiliation, and feeling like a failure, absolutely stops them from ever trying anything new again. They have dreams, they have plans, they have great ideas; but always it is easier to remain in their “comfort zone” and avoid the possibility of failure.

What you think of as being YOUR fear of failure, is in fact not you at all. It is an insane little creature that lives inside your head called your ego. When you think that you are busily telling yourself that you are a loser, that you can’t possibly do that cool thing you really want to, or implement that brilliant idea that you came up with; remember that is not the real YOU talking, it is your ego!

Failure is not to be feared – failure is a good thing because it is the very FIRST step on the road to success. People who avoid failure at all costs, also avoid success, and achieve mediocrity, at best. If you want to achieve and be the greatest you that you can possibly be; the fear of failure must not be your watchword – what you have to do is to actually make a start, and then persist.

What if you push your fear away and try something new; but you don’t initially succeed? Will the world end? Will the sun still rise tomorrow? Actually, two wonderful things will have happened to you.

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  • You will feel immense pride in yourself for having tried something new that you’ve always wanted to try. Perhaps for the very first time you will have given some new idea, endeavor or adventure your absolute best effort and there is immense satisfaction to be had in that. This is where you get your true growth, as a person, from. This is where you get to fall in love with yourself (which is critical to your ultimate success); and
  • You are now experienced at whatever you tried. Sure you made mistakes, and maybe even some poor decisions, but you can use those as building blocks for the next time. You will not make those same mistakes again.

Very few people get it “right” first time – but here’s the rub; if you don’t participate in the race, you sure as hell can’t win it. You want to do all these things; whatever they are. They are the things that give you passion, joy, excitement and achievement – and it is your right to do them; but if you don’t even try because you are paralyzed by memories of past failures, you have condemned yourself to nothing more than mere existing.

People often say to me; “how can I not worry about the future?”  My answer is always the same; “There is no tomorrow!” This great unknown that so many of us are so frightened of, is out there somewhere – in the future; but the future has yet to be created. You are the only person who actually can create your future and more importantly, the ONLY thing that you personally can control is YOU. If you want to ensure your future has all the things that you dream of and aspire to; then what you do today and how you live today will create that future. There is only today.

I have a couple of extremely effective and practical ways of combating our natural fear of the unknown.

First and foremost; try to make a deliberate effort to cut down on all the negative, scary diet of news that we are constantly bombarded with every single day. I actually cut all media from my life for an entire month and I was literally stunned at the positive effect it had on my day, on my demeanor, on my attitude, and just on my general temperament. You are not going to make your future what you want it to be by sitting on the couch being bombarded by negativity every day. You don’t have to be as extreme as I was, but just removing some negativity will result in a surprisingly positively enhanced day. Give it a try – what have you got to lose?

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My second suggestion will no doubt have many of you up in arms, but it is equally as important, if not more so than my first. Surround yourself with a circle of friends who are positive and supportive and are seeking the same path as you. There’s an old saying; “you are the average of your five closest friends”; and like all cliches or truisms, there is a solid foundation of truth in that.I know how hard it is to cut people from your life; especially people who are closely related to you, or with whom you have been friends since grade school; but the reality is that many of our so called “friends” actually revel in criticizing us, bringing us down, gossiping about us, or constantly complaining, whinging and moaning about their lives and the injustices done to them.
These people are hurting you and you need to create distance from them. Even if it is impossible to actually “jettison” them, and I do understand that; at least spend as little time with them as possible,Surround yourself with people; who share your vision of life; who lift you up and praise you, when you try something new; who will always offer their advice, their time and their skills to help you achieve what you want to achieve. In today’s exciting, interconnected world it is so much easier to find these people than it has ever been before.Your time on this planet is short – don’t waste a second of it in negative, destructive and ultimately useless personal interaction. You owe it to yourself. If you are the best you can be, you automatically can help others achieve their dreams also. Don’t let fear cripple your ambitions. Embrace the present and be the person you want to be today; tomorrow will take care of itself.
This article is an abridged version of a much more expansive article on the topic. The full text of the original article can be found here: G Leishman Author – Blog
Grant Leishman
I am an expatriate New Zealander living in Manila, The Philippines, with my wife and two step-daughters. At age 55, after careers in Finance and Journalism, I have finally discovered my true passion in life - writing and I am now truly "living the dream", writing full-time.

My first novel is a romantic fantasy about the return of Jesus Christ to modern day Manila to try and sort out the problems of the world - yet again! It was published in June 2015. My second novel "Just a Drop in the Ocean" is completed and should be published later in 2015. The sequel to "The Second Coming" - "The Rise of the AntiChrist" is now with the publishers. I am working on third and final book in the series "Holy War"
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